You love lists and being organized. You love being on top of family affairs and remembering birthdays. You love getting help from your spouse and kids without having to constantly remind them or feel like you’re nagging
You are a woman with a list for EVERYTHING in your life, but you don’t often share it.
What could turn your family command center into a real collaborative effort?
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Your family mission statement
A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about — what it is you really want to do and be — and the principles you choose to govern your family life. -Stephen Covey
You probably have some idea as to what your family mission is, but have you written it down? Chances are you haven’t or you have, but you can’t remember exactly where you put it. Both of these prevent it from helping you and your family to fulfill your purpose. They also prevent everyone from being on the same page. Discuss what your vision is with your entire family and then put this statement in a prominent place that will be available to everyone even on the go.
Did you forget your mom’s birthday last year? What about your anniversary? The truth is that these things can be easy to forget as we get into the minutia of our days, but you try not to do it. You’ve got your perpetual calendar marked with all those dates. Where is it? It’s under that pile of mail in your inbox or it’s nowhere to be found by you or anyone else? You got it out in January and forgot where you put it. I’ve been there. Mine was buried under my desk for a full year! Lucky for me, my mom’s birthday is always Kentucky Derby weekend, right? Also, there has to be a better way! A way in which your entire family can view the list of birthdays AND reminders. They can also keep track of gift ideas and purchases.
Isn’t there always a list of things that needs to be done? There is! I have to keep this right in front of my face ALL THE TIME because I’d seriously forget my own name some days if it weren’t wholly ingrained in my memory. The list of needs attention continues to get longer, and we need to share that burden with others. A few days ago, my son had homework from his preschool, and I would’ve forgotten to check it daily if the due date wasn’t on my needs attention list and if my husband wasn’t also on board for dates/times. This helped us keep track of the fact that it needed to be done daily and also reminded us to turn it in today!
You’re probably already keeping track of these things, but you’ve got 10 sheets of paper with the items on it. They’re never where you need them. You feel frantic!
I realized very early the power of food to evoke memory, to bring people together, to transport you to other places, and I wanted to be a part of that -Jose Andres
Do you keep a list on the front of your fridge? We used to until of course, we got one of those stainless steel fridges that doesn’t work with magnets. It was a sad day. Of course, this meant finding a new place for my grocery lists, but there was never a good spot. We’d end up with a grocery list sitting next to my computer at home while I was at the grocery store and be pounding our heads trying to remember what was on it. Sound familiar? I know it does! How many things did you buy that weren’t on the list? I see that bag of Oreos!
Having your grocery list in one place that is available on the go allows your spouse to stop by the grocery store on their way home. You no longer have to worry about who will go and whether they’ll have the list!
Listen, I know this seems like such a dirty word. I love budgeting said no one ever. It’s rough. We don’t like to acknowledge that this is a thing, but it is. We have to decide what our spending limit is and stick to it! We can only achieve this by putting it down on paper. In this case, I mean proverbial paper. You’re currently either ignoring this aspect of your home life, one of you is overspending, or you’re keeping track of it in some software you don’t pay attention to at all. You can have everyone on the same page and NOT be nagging about spending by making it easy to use.
Here you can keep a running tab of what needs to be done in your house. You’re currently nagging your husband about that leaky faucet EVERY other day. Is that really fun for anyone? I doubt it. Now he can see the to-do list and check things off as he gets a chance. You can do the same with your child’s chores!
Do you have a physical list? No?!?!!! Seriously, you are going to forget #allthethings or forget to do them. Visualizing is such a HUGE part of getting this kind of thing done. I have a picture of the black beaches of Greece that I look at constantly because I know that I actually want to step onto one someday. It’s on my list! The fact that our lists are available in one place also allows us to plan for these trips!
Okay, ladies, I’ve done this one for you. I’ve set up a list of self-care activities for you that require anything from 2min-1 hour. You can decide what works best for you or what you actually have time for. Also your spouse can look at the list and make a quick suggestion when they can tell you’re overwhelmed. WIN!