I am a mother. Hear me roar! We’ve constantly heard about how we have to do it all. We are alone on our journey to martyrdom, but I don’t think that has to be true. I think we can get on the train to staying sane by taking care of ourselves. We just have to be intentional about it. We’ve talked about some cures for Mommy burnout before, but I want to dig a little deeper now. We have to communicate with our village. We have to know what our wants and desires are, and we have to be grateful for the things/time we do get. If we can stay positive, we can survive even a drought on alone time. You can pick up your copy of 100 Joyful Days here to stay on top of the positivity in your life! In the meantime, I want to let you know some things you can do when you make time by telling your spouse, family, or friends about your needs or you take time like a 5-minute snack break.
Keeping Your Sanity as a Mom in 15minutes or less!
1. Wake up before everyone else in the house and get a shower!
2. Treat yourself to your favorite cup of coffee.
3. Go to Target by yourself. Allow yourself to browse.
4. Spend 5 extra minutes in bed
5. Think about your goals and priorities and then do something to take a step forward. Don’t know what your goals and priorities are? Try this guided #momlife audit!
6. Accept help from others. I know, I know it’s hard. I’m still very bad at this one, but it’s so important
7. Do a 5-minute time in with your child. This means you are 100% focused on them and what they’re doing. Do this multiple times a day. You’ll feel a lot better. They’ll be happier. You’ll still get stuff done.
8. Read a good book for 15 minutes every night.
9. Organize a place in your house that is making you crazy. Imagine the peace you’ll feel when it’s done!
10. Write a letter to your future self. Remind yourself how awesome you are right now!
11. Do a quick pick up of the house so you start a new day with a clean area and thus feel less stressed in early AM.
12. Text a friend to let them know you’re thinking of them and have an adult conversation.
13. Go for a walk. I promise the sunshine will do you good!
14. Listen to your favorite song or a great podcast.
15. Meditate. We use headspace.
16. Do your nightly beauty routine. The face mask or lotion will make you feel like a million dollars
17. Get a quick chair massage at the mall.
18. Feed the kids early. Have a quiet dinner with your husband.
20. Forget about your to-do list for 15minutes. Relax! It’ll still be there when you’re done.
None of these things take a long time, but some of them do take some forethought. If you want time to yourself before the kids are in bed, you’ll need to communicate that need to your husband. I suggest doing this a little in advance of the day you’re going to need it. This will allow him to rearrange his schedule or to come up with an activity to do with the kids himself. Don’t micromanage how he spends this time. This is your time to go off and not worry about what the kids are doing. Who cares if they’re swinging from their ankles! You’ve got to focus on keeping yourself sane. Plus, you married your husband because he’s awesome and capable. Trust him!
Remember: Keeping your sanity is important. You cannot pour from an empty cup. You can only pour when your cup full, you are rested, and you feel loved. Loving yourself is definitely the first step in the battle. Don’t say negative things to yourself throughout the day. Give yourself grace. Keeping your sanity depends on it.