I always wanted children. By that, I mean I wanted a house full of them running around and chasing each other. I knew what I was getting into with this idea. I’m the oldest of 7. I knew what more than 1 child looked like, but I wasn’t at all prepared for the first. You know what I mean? The first one is the one that requires your full attention. The one that tests you in feats of strength and knowledge. The one that tests your will and patience. This is the one where you really have to find your groove. The one you know that you’ll mess up a million times along the way, but you’ll both survive it somehow. I know that welcoming baby #2 will change the dynamic and create new challenges, but I also know that in some ways the things I’ve weathered through with baby #1 will make it easier. It doesn’t mean I’ll be immune to mommy burnout. I think we all experience it in different areas all the time. How can you cure your mommy burnout?
Get out of the house
The truth of the matter is that a change of scenery definitely changes things for you and your children. If you get out of the house, you’ll notice a difference in how you both react to things. The park often makes it easier to be calmer about things for instance. First of all, I’m outside with the kiddo and he’s happily running around and laughing. Second, there is so much more space so no one feels cramped. Everything feels worse when there is nowhere to run, right?
I know it’s not always feasible to get out of the house though so what else can you do?
Change up your daily routine
When you’re doing the same thing day after day, it can get super boring. Tomorrow morning try doing things in a different order or make a different kind of breakfast. You’ll be surprised at the changes you see in yourself and your child. Of course, mine doesn’t like it when I get too fancy. We made pancakes for his first day of preschool as a special treat, and he wouldn’t eat them if I paid him. Not that I’d pay him to eat. He’s a great eater. It was just hilarious to see how disinterested he was in them. I try to change up our routine frequently, though, with different songs on Alexa, different books at bedtime, different cartoons with breakfast, and we break up the week with classes.
Register for a class
We do Music Together class, and it is amazing. I’m able to get out of the house and change up our routine all at the same time. On top of that, I’m able to leave someone else in charge of instruction for 45minutes. All I have to do is play along! It’s great! At the end of class, Sweet Baby J is exhausted. We have a snack and then he takes a nap when we get home. I’m given a HUGE reprieve one day a week from having to be creative and I’m able to recoup my thoughts.
Watch as the children play alone
One of the biggest things I wanted to teach my child was to play by himself. I know that this was a HUGE boredom buster for me and continues to be so to this day. I’m able to come up with things to do that will entertain me while I wait on the doctor, sit in line, or just need to check out for a few minutes. I want this for my children. I don’t want them to need a tablet to be entertained. So I’ve decided to just let him entertain himself. Yesterday, I watched as he built towers out of blocks and placed his ducks on top of them as if it were their throne. It was perfect. I was able to check some things on my phone and he was happily playing.
Seek extra help and start a hobby
You need to reach out to the people who can help you to be able to spend some time by yourself. This could be your husband, mom, or a trusted babysitter. I’m so thankful for EVERY ONE of these people in my life. I’m able to call in reinforcements when I really need 15 minutes to just collect my sanity. What is your sanity buster? I like to take a shower, read a book, play a game, knit, crochet, or even just do nothing for a few minutes and breathe.
These are all some of the best ways I’ve learned to beat the mommy fatigue or mommy burnout. Do you have any awesome tips?