Momma, I’m going to admit that setting an example for your child can be super difficult. I’ll bet you even have days where you’re not a good example. I’ll admit to lacking in patience for things that frustrate me. You’ll see me shaking my body at my computer when it doesn’t do exactly what I want it to do, but I promise you’ll see me exude patience while baking. Nothing in life is easy, and we aren’t perfect. The truth is though that there are 5 things our kids need to hear from us in order to not only be a good example but to also build their confidence in themselves.
This one is so hard. It’s hard for everyone. It’s hard when you’re young and it’s hard when you’re old. Sometimes, you just don’t know if you should say you’re sorry about something. In life, though, it’s probably best to defer to I’m sorry if you feel like you were a jerk or if you were truly in the wrong. It’s important for kids to learn this early. We’re talking about I’m sorry for snapping at you. I’m sorry I forgot to pick you up on time from school. I’m sorry I forgot to fill out that permission slip. Saying you’re sorry for your own bad behavior with your child will remind them to say they’re sorry for their own behavior. It’ll also teach them to show remorse for their actions now and later.
How many times have our kids pointed out our faults? We used the wrong word or we jumped to a conclusion that their little brains couldn’t get to just yet. The truth is that sometimes they point out things that we just don’t think about, but they are right. It’s important for them to know this. It helps to build their self-esteem and for them to feel like they are valuable to you in more ways than just being wonderful. Confidence is key people!
They need to hear you say this one often and not just to them. The more you use your manners the more likely they are to use theirs. I think it’s uber important to be sure to use this tone with service staff. We want to make sure that our children value all people and all jobs. We want to make sure that our children feel appreciated. I find myself saying I appreciate you more often than I say thank you, but it’s the same concept.
You can do it!
This shows your child that you have confidence in their abilities. It will help to make them more confident in them as well. Life is easier if you’re confident that you can do things. Yes even hard things. It will also help them to gain their independence as they know you trust them to do it.
I love you
I cannot talk about this one enough. Everyone deserves to feel safe and loved. I don’t think there is absolutely a way to say this too much. I also don’t think there are too many hugs or kisses. I think the truth is that your kids crave your attention, affection, and praise so why not give it to them. They won’t be spoiled brats because you gave them these things. They’ll be better able to communicate their own love for others and to be aware of their feelings.
Remember most importantly that as you raise little ones saying these 5 things isn’t enough. You’ll need to demonstrate these 5 things as you talk to others. Your little person sees how you are with the whole world, and it’s important that they know how to communicate, be independent, and confident as they grow.
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