As a mom, I know that it can be super difficult to find your mommy me time. My son is 20 months old, and I know that some weeks I can feel that overwhelm. I have to really sit back and think about whether or not I got some time for myself. I find that if I’m feeling stressed out the answer is easily no. That means I need to reevaluate my week and ask for that time. I’ll admit to being the world’s worst at asking for the time. I always feel like I should be okay continuing to move forward.
This means that sometimes I am cranky. It means I don’t enjoy life.
This is bad news bears for EVERYONE. It’s me running around snapping people’s heads off because I really need at least 5-minutes by myself. I’m an introvert by nature so this is HUGE as you can imagine. This is also when I have the crying breakdown in the bathroom floor because I’m frustrated.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve started considering the things I enjoy. I’ve started to think about how to get my me time back or at least get to do things that I enjoy and find relaxing. My entire demeanor has changed, and I feel confident that will continue.
I’ve realized that spending that time on myself doesn’t make anyone or anything around my house suffer. My husband will gladly pick up the slack on chores or spend time with our child. I’m not forgetting to do things. I’m merely prioritizing when things get done. It can be difficult to find this balance.
What is not considered me time?
*sitting in the bathroom pretending to pee
Hey, I’ve been there. I know what it’s all about.
It can feel great to call these things me time because you’ll start to believe you’re actually getting time to yourself. You aren’t! You’re denying yourself something that you desperately need. You need what I like to call your mommy time. It’s uninterrupted time for yourself. The things I’ve listed above are just short breaks from your day. They don’t help you to really get a reset.
How do you get your mommy time?
Communicate your needs
This is the biggest thing that I’m going to say to you today.
We have to stop expecting our husbands to be mind readers. He can only know what you need if you tell him, and you need to be as clear as possible. You know what is relaxing for you, and you know how long it takes. You explain that you’d like to spend 30 minutes watching your favorite television show uninterrupted on Tuesdays. You’d like 30 minutes to read a book each night before bed. You name it, and I bet you can get it most any night.
Just do it
If you’ve communicated your needs and you’ve been able to work out the scheduling then it’s on you. You just have to do it. You can’t forgo it unless the situation is dire. The reason is that if you start giving it up to do even the smallest thing you’ll train your family that it’s not important. MINDBLOWN? You have to drop the guilt, and you have to fully trust your husband to be there and get it done. You will both benefit. You’ll feel refreshed and he’ll feel trusted. It’s wonderful.
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