It’s not easy being a mom. We all suffer through these moments where we don’t feel confident in what we’re doing. I was on a trip to see my mom and we got my husband tickets to a UT football game. He was at the game, and I was sitting there with a screaming child who just would not go to sleep. I was feeling stressed and less than confident about why he was screaming until it hit me. In that moment, I realized that I know my child and what he needs. I think that’s the ah-ha moment all of us need. It was in that moment that I handed the baby to my mom and trekked myself to the store to buy gripe water. You see my baby had a gas bubble that was bothering him. He needed to get that up before he could go to sleep. As soon as it worked through his system, he was asleep like a baby should be, and I felt infinitely better for resolving the situation.
I think we all have those moments. We have those moments of feeling like we’re totally lost only to finally have it click in our heads. We also have those things that we are just continually insecure about especially when we feel like the world is judging us. So how do you get your momma confidence or groove back?
Own up to your insecurities
I’m not saying that you have to tell the world about them, but you should admit them to yourself and your husband. It will allow you to know when you’re falling into a pity party about them. This means you’ll be better able to pull yourself out.
Reject judgemental thoughts of yourself
I know you feel like you’re constantly under scrutiny, but you aren’t. I mean sure there are some people who won’t agree with what you’re doing in a given moment but for the most part, their living in their own bubble. People are mostly concerned about the crisis in front of them and not your crisis. So now it’s time to give yourself that same grace and meet yourself where you are at in that moment. You have to push the judgemental talk out of your brain and focus on solving the problem. You’ll get that ah-ha moment and feel so relieved. Also, you need to detach yourself from those thoughts and not believe that they are who you are, but they are how you feel in that moment. It’s not easy to keep from internalizing these things, but you’ll be a better person and mom for it.
Reflect on your strengths
Remind yourself that while you have insecurities and judgemental thoughts you are really good at certain things. These things will be great to fall back on when you’re feeling kind of low. We all have those moments when we feel like the worst mom ever. Use your strengths to pull yourself up by the bootstraps!
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