Did you say yes to something this week that you dreaded doing?
Did you spend a minute of your day doing something because it was expected of you by society rather than brought you joy?
Okay, I’m going to be real with you for a moment and say that you’re going to have to still do a few of those things even after you audit your #momlife, but you’ll be okay with it. You’ll survive those moments because you’ll have your eye on the prize.
What is a life audit?
Life audit (n, origin unknown): An exercise in self-reflection that helps you clear the cobwebs of noise, external goals, and current distractions, and revisit or uncover the real themes and core values that drive and inspire you. Also known as a spring-cleaning for the soul.
Doesn’t that sound beautiful?
I spent months in the muck. I was saying yes to everything that seemed like it was something I should do versus what I wanted to do. I stood in the kitchen crying hysterically after reading an email describing an activity to do with your toddler. I cried because I’d bought all the ingredients to make play dough, and I hadn’t made the stuff. I wanted to be that mom. I wanted to be the mom who made fun at home activities that were crafty for and with her child. I still want to be that mom. But let’s be real. I was aiming at the wrong activity. I came home and immediately made the play dough while my child napped only to watch him reject it upon waking up.
I have a child who HATES marshmallows. He doesn’t like them because they are sticky. He hates having his hands dirty. I had let myself get caught up in the expectation though that buying play dough was bad. I got caught up in the idea that giving him some store bought colored clay-like substance was going to make someone think that I wasn’t a good mom. This is only one of many reasons we need to do a #momlife audit. You know your child, and we have to stop being so worried about what the rest of the world believes from the little snippets they see of your life.
Where do I start?
Your #momlife audit starts with your Family Mission Statement. It is important to have a clear understanding of what you and your family want from life before you do this #momlife audit. The point of the audit is to create a life where you can mom your way and achieve your goals. You’ll need to perform this audit every few years to keep it fine tuned as your life changes.
Look at your mission statement and then write out your goals for the next 5 years.
Yep, your family is like a business. You need a 5-year plan. Our current 5-year plan includes moving to Europe for at least a year. When you have big goals, it’s important to lay them out so you can make them happen. Our 5-year plan has a big ticket item on it so this may also mean cutting back now on things like local travel or eating out. It might also mean living more intentionally with the things we bring into our home. It’ll definitely involve a little more KonMari method.
I’ve got goals…now what?
The next step is to write down everything you’re doing currently and really look at them. Are you overcommitted? Do you enjoy being on the board for that charity? Are you spending too much time with negative people? You’ll know! It’s important, to be honest with yourself. Remember: You need to look at each item with a critical eye and compare it with your goals.
Now I want you to assign each item on the list with a red, yellow, or green light. The green light items are things that help advance you toward your goal. These are the things you definitely want to spend your time doing. The yellow light items are important to you, but you need to cut back on how much time you spend doing them. The red light items are things that you need to delegate or push off the list.
The main goal of this is to actually stop doing the red light items and move toward your goal and 5-year plan!
Are you ready to live a happier life? Start here with the FREE 5-page family mission statement workbook.