Co-parenting has become a hot topic over the last few years. I’ve seen it referred to mostly in cases of divorced parents, but I think that some of the tips for parents are valid even if you’re still married. What is co-parenting? It merely means that you share the duties of parenting your child. I’ve talked about my feelings on why parenting isn’t 50/50 here. How can we best co-parent?
- Keep your child on their schedule regardless of who is in charge. Children love routine. They seriously crave it. My husband and I both know that the bedtime routine starts at 7pm and our child is in bed by 7:30pm. This makes it easier for either of us to be away from home during this time. We also know that it includes bath, brushing teeth, reading, and bed.
- Speak positively about your husband. If you disagree with the way something is being done, you have to talk to your partner about it away from your child. You don’t want your child to know that you’re not a united front.
- Remember that parenting is forever. You will always be the parent of your child so just try to remember that the things you do now matter later.
- Include your child. Especially in discussions about schedules and money. I think it’s important for your child to understand where you’re coming from and who will be doing what in reference to your child and their daily life.
- Reserve MAJOR arguments for when your child is not around. It’s important that your children see you maneuver through small issues, but you don’t want to put undue stress on them for major issues.
- Don’t put your child in the middle. Of any arguments you have with your husband. It’s not their place to deal with these major adult issues.
- Give your children choices and don’t shame them for choosing one over the other. Does your child want daddy to read books? Mommy to play in his tent? This is one that I’m honestly working on myself, because it’s not easy to not be the chosen one!
- Check with each other when it comes to planning meals, buying supplies, etc. My husband and I sit down at least once a month to discuss whether or not our son has enough clothes. We sit down multiple times a day about food, because we’re constantly deciding this for ourselves too. It’s all about what do we want right now! haha.
- Keep your promises. It’s super important that your children can trust you and know that your word is your bond.
- Have fun!!!
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