The #1 question moms ask me is: How do you fill your cup so that it’s never empty? The truth is that there is no one magic answer. How we fill our cups is literally different for EVERYONE. We don’t like or need the same things to feel full. That doesn’t mean we can’t use the same method for storing the materials that help with our cup.
The truth is that it’s super important to me that none of you end up with an empty cup. I don’t want you to be on the struggle bus for finding time for yourself, but I know realistically we all end up there from time to time. I was there for the first 6 months of my child’s life. I was constantly struggling to find me time without feeling like a complete failure. Our moms did it all, right? We never saw them struggle, right? Then why was it so hard for me? The truth is that we were lied to a little bit about how our parents coped. They weren’t perfect, and we don’t have to be either.
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How can I take care of myself and get off the struggle bus?
Is that the question you’ve been asking yourself? I’m going to share a little secret with you and that is that I put everything I need for self-care in one place. I mean we’re all very organized with our lives, right? We know where our children’s clothes are and our husband’s car keys. Why don’t we know where all the materials we need for our own self-care are located. My guess is that most of us haven’t really thought about what we’d put in a self-care basket. It took awhile for it to occur to me after all.
First, I want you to grab an empty basket, and I want you to think about its emptiness. Are you as empty as the basket? I sure hope not, but if you are I hope that we’ll get you filled up quickly. Now, I want you to think about the kinds of things that make you happy and help you to feel loved. Is it a bubble bath? An adult coloring book? A good book? A ball of yarn? Only you can truly know what makes you happiest, but I want you to consider it before we start to fill the basket.
Second, I want you to think of this as nurturing yourself. As moms, we are constantly taking care of others so nurturing is in our blood so just think of this as an extension. Plus, we can’t take care of others without first taking care of ourselves. I mean sure you’ll have to work through some sickness occasionally, but if you fill your basket hopefull you’ll get to refill your cup when it’s done.
Third, I want you to fill your basket. I want you to fill it with love and knowledge that you’re going to feel the love in return. Your basket is your lifeboat, and I want it to be there to support you even as you fill it.
What kinds of things might you put in your self-care basket?
What would you include in your self-care basket? Do you need help with ideas? Why don’t you join the #momsquad and we can talk about how to make your basket full?