If there is one thing I’ve noticed in all my mom friends, it’s that we’re terrible at prioritizing. I’m certainly not immune to this. It’s easy to fall victim to the humps in your day/week. Why are we bad at it? The truth is that we’re bad at it because we’ve been taught to be bad at it. Decades of listening to moms tell us about not having time for themselves, feeling estranged from their husbands after their children left the house, and of course failing to do the things that mattered to them until they couldn’t actually enjoy them. It’s a refrain I’ve heard time and time again. In order to combat this, we need to deal with our priorities.
Choosing your priorities and focus.
When I became a parent, I had no idea how to prioritize. I can promise you that I cried nightly about not getting enough done in my day. It was not getting work done, shower, eat, or even spend time with my husband. These are all important parts of my life. Today, I’m much more focused. I’m able to get up in the morning eat breakfast, get work done, shower regularly, and spend time with my husband every night. Today, I want to talk about some tips for how to prioritize your life so that you can do #allthethings and not feel overwhelmed or underappreciated.
First, brainstorm your priorities.
This may seem difficult, but it’s really a no-brainer. List out the things you actually want to do in your life/day. I don’t want you to worry about listing them in order of priority just yet, but I do want you to get to the bottom of it. I want you to brainstorm a list until you can’t possibly brainstorm anymore.
For example: self-care, playing outside with your child and no phone, being present with your spouse, going to bed at the same time, cooking dinner, finishing a load of laundry, playing a game with your child, making a toy from scratch, making cute toddler snacks, pureeing your own baby food, manicure, etc.
Put them in groups.
Now go back through your list and look at some of the ways your priorities connect.
For example: things including child, things including hubby, things for yourself, etc.
Rank the items in each group and see if they relate.
Okay, this is where we get real. I want you to look at each of the lists and prioritize each item under it. You’ll want to count the number of items in each list then number them 1 to x with 1 being the most important. You may look at the lists and how you’ve prioritized things to see some overlap. Cooking a healthy meal is important for everyone and may move up to a higher priority level as you see that on your lists.
Create your family mission statement.
Now you’re ready to create your family mission statement. This should be a statement that encompasses your priorities. It’ll now be your guiding light when it comes to prioritizing your time and your family. If it’s important that you get out of the house every day put it in the statement. We are a family who vows to be active and get out of the house daily might be the right statement for you. Now I want you to read this statement any time you’re having difficulty deciding what to do with your day or finding time for your priorities. Does it say anything about the laundry, dishes, or spending time with people you don’t truly love? If it doesn’t, you can say no to those things for now.
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