Hold your hand up if you’ve been on any sort of maternity leave! I know you’re over there with your hand held high screaming, ME! ME! ME! Was it easy? Was it life affirming? Did it give you clarity? Was it life changing? I bet the answer to some of those questions is yes. I also bet the answer to some of those questions is no. I’ll also bet that all of you are seething over Meternity by Meghann Foye. I won’t claim to have read it. I haven’t. Before we get too far, I do want to note that this is a work of fiction and should be treated as such and is separate from Meghann Foye’s own comments.I do want to spend a minute talking about her comments, though because I feel like those have stirred up valid emotions in all of us.
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As a mother, we know that maternity leave was anything but free time. We were up all hours of the day and night feeding our child, changing diapers, and dealing with all the angst that comes from having a new human being in your house. I’m talking about the late night when the baby slept just a little bit longer than normal and you wonder if he’s breathing or not. You know what I’m talking about, right? Was it just me? I know it wasn’t, because I’ve seen all the other mom’s stress about it. I’ve seen the anxiety that this new human causes from both the inside and the outside. I think that is why we are so likely to hate the book Meternity just based on its title alone.
Meternity causes us to feel anger beyond our wildest dreams. It makes us feel like the author doesn’t understand us or that the don’t validate why maternity leave is so important. Meghann Foye makes it seem like we are just spending time getting to know ourselves and changing our direction. She points out how many women seemed to have clarity. She talks about friends who started their own business. Does she know why this happened? I guarantee you that a lot of mompreneurs started their own business because they couldn’t stomach the idea of going back to the office and leaving their little one at home. I’ve felt that way.
I didn’t start this blog with being a mompreneur in mind, but I am glad that it happened. I’m glad that I have business clarity. I’m glad that I know what I want to do with my life. I didn’t know that though until my son was about 9 months old. It didn’t come in those first 12 weeks when I was frazzled, confused, and exhausted. It didn’t come out of necessity. It came when I was able to think clearly. I still didn’t act on it for weeks. I think that’s the part Meghann Foye misses. Her friends may have been thinking of leaving their job long before they got pregnant and the maternity leave just made a perfect segue. They may have already had the clarity it took me months to obtain.
How did I get that clarity? I’m going to tell you. I found that clarity through the amazing Boss Mom Academy. Dana Malstaff has changed my life and my business. I don’t think I could begin to tell you how transformational it has been for me, but I know you’ll be able to see for yourself soon. If you’re thinking about a change in your life and creating a business that you love, I suggest you go for it.
I won’t be reading Meternity any time soon, because I’m busy creating the life I want and love. I hope you’ll get busy doing it too!