I want to start by saying that I don’t know everything about the case. I’ve seen the same information most of you have in the news. The truth is though that I can understand the struggle, and I believe it could likely be very real. Many of you are wondering why she didn’t press charges when the rape first happened, right? I’m not. We live in a culture where it would be hard to believe Kesha. Her persona was a party girl. Everyone knew her as the girl who sings about brushing her teeth with Jack. People remember seeing her provocatively dressed. So let’s imagine taking that to court for a second, and I think you’ll realize that lawyers and juries would hold that persona against her. On top of that, she believed Dr. Luke was in a position of power. Kesha broke into Prince’s house in order to get her career started. She was accustomed to buying a shot of tequila in order to eat all the tacos she could in one setting. Would she want to go back to that? No, she wouldn’t. She knew that pressing charges would jeopardize her reputation and her career. Now, she can afford to press forward a bit more, because she has a fanbase that loves her. She has many hits under her belt. I still understand not pressing charges.
The truth is that it’s incredibly difficult to accuse someone of something like this. In college, I changed jobs because I wasn’t able to escape someone who sexually harassed me. The easiest part of the ordeal was telling my boss that I had been harassed. The aftermath wasn’t so easy. The truth is that we live in a culture that believes women are generally asking for it. No one ever asks to be in these situations. No one wakes up and says, “I’ll go get myself raped today.” No one wakes up and says, “I’ll be sure to have someone comment on my body in an inappropriate way today.” They just don’t. We all wake up not really thinking about these things other than how to protect ourselves. Women look in their closet and try to decide on an outfit that doesn’t show too much skin. They try to make sure their rape whistle is in their purse. They try to make sure their can of pepper spray isn’t empty. It’s an unjust and unfair world we live in, but these are things no one should have to fear. Yet, we do.
The truth is that I do not struggle to believe that Kesha was raped by a man who she saw as a powerful man within the Sony empire. I have no trouble believing that he would convince her not to talk about it or to even lie under oath. I’m not saying that Dr. Luke is guilty. I am merely saying that I have no trouble believing that it could happen. It could happen to anyone. My college experienced involved lewd remarks, and I was unable to get away without quitting my job. I quit because the job was in a location on campus that wouldn’t allow me to be completely free from the man, and I didn’t want to cause a big thing. I just wanted to work in order to my college spending money. Also, I believe the guy who sexually harassed me actually meant no harm. I don’t think he honestly thought about what his words and actions might make me feel. I think that’s a common occurrence actually. I didn’t hold it against him. I simply moved on. I believe that Kesha is also trying to move on with her life and career.
The good news for her is that she can still bring charges against him should she choose. It’ll be harder for her because she already said under oath that he didn’t do it. I believe though that if she truly feels that her career will suffer irreparable harm that she should do it. It’ll be one large leap for her, but it’ll also be one giant step for her fans. The millions of girls and women who look up to her as a role model. It would hopefully allow others to feel that stepping forward and taking that step is something they are strong enough to do.
Everyone is innocent until proven guilty, and we can only hope that justice is served in the system.