Okay so maybe that’s a little harsh. The truth is that most people are genuinely happy for you while you’re pregnant, but they may be struggling with your happiness. This will make it seem that not EVERYONE is happy with your pregnancy. When I first found out I was pregnant, I was elated. We had planned for this. We were ready. I also felt a little anxious since I knew some people who might struggle with their own issues due to our announcement.
For me, I was highly aware that I knew people who were having difficulty conceiving, unable to conceive at all, people who had just miscarried, or just didn’t like kids. I knew that all of those people would be excited for me that my dreams were coming true, but I was keenly aware of the pain it could cause them. I had seen it many times before. I had watched people get pregnant and inadvertently rub it in the faces of those people who were not as fortunate as them. I didn’t want to be that person, but I knew the information couldn’t be kept hidden nor should it. I knew it needed to be handled differently, though. I was nervous.
I couldn’t expect these people to be overjoyed, and I didn’t. I honestly prepared myself for the fact that we may not see some of these people as often after the announcement. I prepared myself for trying to avoid what was going on with me in conversation. It wasn’t that I thought they loved us any less or that they didn’t want to support us. I just knew that it might be difficult.
The truth was that I was highly aware that while my world revolved around supporting this baby, I couldn’t let that become the focal point of hanging out with people. Of course the larger, you get the harder that becomes since EVERYONE notices and asks you questions. Everyone is concerned about what you can and can’t do. Everyone wants to make sure they aren’t serving you things you can’t eat. Things have changed.
About 10 percent of women (6.1 million) in the United States ages 15-44 have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
Another one-third of fertility problems are due to the man.-Women’s Health.gov.
I think it’s important for all of us to remember that getting pregnant isn’t a given. As a society, I think it’s important for people to be concerned about those around us so it’s only fair to take their feelings into account even in this situation. I’m not saying to temper your elation. You should just be aware of these facts when you notice your friend doesn’t jump up to give you a hug. You may not know their personal struggle, or you may be aware of it. Either way, it’s important to know that not EVERYONE is happy about your pregnancy even when they’re happy for you so try not to take it personally.