I’ll be honest with you on this one, and I’ll tell you that I tried a less intense check sheet than the one provided by The Knot. I didn’t like it. For some people simplifying the process will work, but for me I felt more like I was going to forget something important. Of course as we’ve discussed previously you really have to decide on what you think is important very early on in the planning stages. You have to know what you want and from there you can decide on the checklist that works best for you. The timeline and check list provided by The Knot had me feeling overwhelmed and behind at first since it starts at 12 months out, and I was starting at around 8 months out for our planning purposes. The truth is though that by now I’m way ahead of schedule. I know what I want and what we need. I know where to find things. I can spend time actually perfecting the minor details.
I know that because I haven’t forgotten anything I can focus on the minor details with more precision. I can also spend a little bit of time enjoying peaceful weekends at home gardening without being stressed that there is a new meeting to attend or a new decision to be made. Last weekend, we went looking for wedding bands, and I am pleased to say that we actually picked them out. We also spent the day looking for shoes for the wedding party. We were able to find those as well. The rest of the day we were able to spend relaxing, watching soccer, and cleaning up the backyard. These are the kinds of weekends you really need during this hectic planning phase so it’s important to feel on top of your list. Choose the checklist that works best for you and skip things that aren’t important.
The first thing I did when I got to The Knot checklist was to mark off things that I knew we weren’t going need. This helped me to narrow down what we were looking for and to have a more accurate timeline. In our case, I didn’t have to interview vendors as they were provided by the venue. So far, I have been nothing but pleased with those vendors, and I am excited to see the final product. I have trust in them, and I have trust in my wedding planners. I have faith in my having gone over the list time and time again.
In the end though, I know that the day will be perfect regardless of any pitfalls. I can’t really go wrong with a day spent celebrating the love Beeble and I have for each other. That’s the most important thing to remember when you’re planning. Also the more involved he is the less overwhelmed you’ll feel so please feel free to bring him into the conversation. Tell him things you have your heart set on and then work together to make your dreams a reality. Trust me he wants it to be exactly as you’ve envisioned it your whole life.