This was a question that I didn’t have the answer to at first, or well at least I wasn’t 100% about it. I had a fewer number of friends as I only moved here in my mid twenties, but I wasn’t sure which ones would be best. I didn’t want to ask too many people to travel for the wedding either. I wanted to be able to save people money wherever possible. I was looking out for them, but I knew I was going to need a team. I was going to need different kinds of people for different things. I knew that life was going to be a ride, and I wanted to enjoy it with some of the coolest people I know. Here’s what I think you need.
You need the girl who will smack you when you turn into some demanding bridezilla. Okay, so I wasn’t really about to turn into that. I’ve been bending over backwards to not place any demands on anyone pretty much other than Love. Most of those demands are just me feeling the time crunch. I knew that girl though who would be the very one to tell me to take it down a notch. She was totally in.
You need someone who can calmly discuss things with you that are a matter of opinion. She’s the one that will be able to bring you down from a ledge when someone doesn’t agree with the thing you’ve chosen. She hates confrontation. She isn’t a pushover though. She’s definitely strong willed, but she is also calm. That girl is so in for you.
You need the girl who will take a shot with you when your nerves are on edge. You know she’s the kind of girl who probably carries around a flask of bourbon any time you’re discussing wedding planning. She will be there to 100% back you up if you were going to have a fight in a bar. Okay, I’d never really do that either, but if I was going to do it then this girl would be totally in it with me. I can feel it.
You need the mother hen. You need the woman who is able to corral everyone. She’s the kind of lady that knows how to manage time and keep people to a schedule. She will make sure that you’re not stressed because so and so is running late. She’s also the one who will be there to help you figure out any trauma like a bachelorette party injury or she’ll be able to last minute figure out how to bustle your dress. She’s totally in too.
For you, this girl might be just one girl or it might be many. You’ll know who has your back, and you’ll know who won’t let you buy the first dress you see because it’s so beautiful yet she knows you’ll regret it tomorrow. You’ll have girls that want to wear your dress after you as if it was The Sisterhood of the Traveling Dress. You’ll have girls that sip champagne with you at Olive Garden after you’ve just bought your veil. You’ll have girls that bring you superhero capes and tiaras. You’ll have girls that know the best tasting bourbon on the market. You’ll even have someone to look after you when you’ve got the worst hangover ever. You’ll have an adventure with your best friends. You’ll build life memories. You’ll have a few laughs over the stress. Life is good when you’re with your best friends.