No, this isn’t some cheeky quiz for a newly engaged woman to take. It’s just some general advice on things you need to decide pretty early on. Before you buy the dress. Before you think about decor. Before you even contemplate invitations. You’ll need to think about your wedding style. This is essentially just coming to an agreement on what you and your fiance expect your day to look like. I realize that some of the men are less involved than others, but we are in an ever evolving world so don’t exclude him based on things you know from the past. Ask his opinions. Of course you’ll have to stand up for some of your opinions when he disagrees, but it’ll be important to learn how to navigate those waters anyway.
We started with a collaborative board. You can view it here, and I highly suggest doing this. You’ll be able to both pin independently of each other and then can come back to discuss any things that don’t add up. You’ll notice of course that not all of the pins on my board are cohesive. When we started out, I went with the basics and just started to pin color combinations that I liked. Trust me when I tell you that you’ll want to go with something super trendy for the moment, but you’ll want to stop yourself. Take a moment and look in your closet and then reevaluate your color selections from the first part of the pinterest board. You’ll thank goodness for this in 10 years when peppermint and aqua no longer stand out in weddings and they are also not prominent in your closet or home. You’ll wonder what the hell you were thinking. As you know, we settled on navy and coral. This was a color combination that runs throughout the closet. I like to have dark colors with bright pops of color.
I also focused a lot on appearance of decor at this stage. It’s the stage where you really want to come up with a theme. Your theme doesn’t have to make everyone dress up in some sort of costume get up, but it does have to run throughout your wedding from save the dates to reception decor. You’ll want to look at your styles and come up with something that really fits your personality. We personally love a lot of more rustic decor so that’s how we settled on some of the things we pinned.
Food was next on my list. I wanted to find food that brought in my Southern roots as well as added to the rustic feel. Trust me there was a lot of food on our original tasting menu that just did not fit the bill in that regard. I think sometimes the venues wedding coordinator doesn’t really listen to what I’m saying to her, but I do know that we finally came to a menu that works for us. It’s the kind of menu that should keep people up and moving. The kind of menu that will allow people to hold their food and shake their groove thang. Plus who doesn’t love having a choice for what you want on your mashed potatoes while doing the mashed potato?
Next, I focused on cake and flowers for our board. I had a hard time deciding on the right kind of cake, because there were so many great rustic looks. The naked cake was a personal favorite of mine but with the cake we decided on it was time to go with something a little more covered. I’m pleased with the final selection though. Blueberry cake with lemon filling is going to be fabulous to eat on our one year anniversary. There’s another flavor in another layer so everyone should be able to find something for themselves. Flowers needed to be vibrant and speak to my personality, but they also needed to incorporate our colors and of course match the location of our wedding.
This was finally my inspiration for my own bouquet plus that of the ladies that will be with me. I think it suits me fairly well plus the succulents look incredible. I believe that it helps draw in our current location as it needs very little water to live.
Next the focus was linens and other decorations. We still haven’t finalized these as yet again I’m waiting to hear back from the wedding coordinator, but I think that I will end up adding some burlap table runners for our tablescape to sit on. As I shared yesterday, we are planning to make our own. The wine bottles being nearly a start.
Finally, I focused on favors. I know you’ll look at the board and see some photography selections, but I haven’t even started to really focus on that. I think we’ll probably start another board to share with our photographers when the time comes. Also, I hope to have a welcome box at the hotel before the wedding as well, but we’ll see how that works out. For now I’ve focused on narrowing down ideas for favors. There are SO MANY super cute ideas to choose from that you can do yourself or you can buy. I looked into honey with stirrers and a million other things before we settled on the perfect idea for a rustic wedding if you ask me.
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Unfortunately, it looks like the original pinner didn’t link this back to its original location, but just look at it! The whole thing is pretty simple to put together, and it looks super rustic. I’m personally hoping to be able to find plants that will grow in the varying locales that our guests are coming from so that they can watch their plant and our love grow for years to come.