I’m definitely in process for wedding bells to be ringing early summer of next year so you’ll have to bear with me while a few of my crafts or tutorials of some sort revolve around that. The truth is though that this one is a HARD one. It’s incredibly difficult to find the perfect wedding venue. There are many reasons for this not the least of which is knowing that you’ve planned it for your entire life and you want it to be exactly as you envisioned it. I’ll admit though that over the years my views on the wedding ceremony itself have changed drastically. I’m not talking about just changing with styles either, but my ideas just aren’t as concrete as they once were when life was simple and you could have a wedding to a different pretend friend every day. Wait that was only me?
There are several things to consider when you begin to look for wedding venues. First and foremost you have to consider your budget. You have to think of what is reasonable for you to spend on a wedding. This includes how much money both sets of parents are willing to pitch in plus any extra money you’re willing to contribute. It may of course be that only one set of parents are giving or that neither are, but you have to think about the budget for your exact circumstance. For us, it’s been a little bit of a fluctuating scale as we find out new parameters.
Secondly, you have to sit down with your partner and discuss your expectations. What do each of you expect from the day? Does he want to be involved in planning? What kind of wedding does he envision? Once you know what you’re looking for then it’s easy to start narrowing down the places you want to look. For us, we both wanted a rustic feel with me leaning a little more toward a Southern flare. This made looking for an outdoor venue, which was in my plans anyway, much easier. We started to scour google, theknot.com, weddingwire.com, herecomestheguide.com, and so many more places to find the perfect location. We both knew that the thing that would seal the deal would be that when we saw it then we would know it was perfect.
Last but not least, you need to consider what you’re getting for your buck. I am all for knowing that minimizing my stress is definitely worth some money. It’s not worth going severely over budget of course, but the idea of something where I can just go make a few decisions and it will be handled is perfect. I know that I felt comfortable knowing that all items would arrive on time to the venue without problems when it was all included in the package. This isn’t to say that there wasn’t A LOT of customization to the plan provided by the venue, and it’s also not to say that we’ve made any final decisions yet. We had to think about what was important in the way of flowers and food. We want everyone at our wedding to be able to mix and mingle. We want a party where people dance and participate in it as much as possible. A small, hearty appetizer menu will provide that for us. Also, we wanted no seating chart and not having a sit down dinner allows for more flexibility there. I also wanted to make my wedding as DIY as possible. This is not the time to go looking for new crafts that might crash and burn from Pinterest, but it is the time to think about what skills you do have and how to use them if you desire. Find the venue that suits your personality and your desire for personalization.
It is my belief that we have found ours, and I can only hope to make it a dream come true. Hamilton Oaks Winery is like a dream to me. We will see what the proposal holds. Cross your fingers for me, and I hope that someday when you’re looking for a venue you will think about these things as well.