Saturday, April 19

Drinks for Spring/Summer

Today, I wanted to share with you a few recipes that I found around Pinterest this week. 1. Moscato Strawberry Lemonade
I really wish that the pin had linked back to the original source, but this is one I definitely plan to make for our Easter Celebration. What goes better with good friends than a cool and refreshing spiked lemonade?
Diane, A Broad
I love aqua fresca, and we are actually have one as the signature drink of our wedding so when I saw this Watermelon Agua Fresca Mimosa I knew it was a must try for our next brunch. Who wants to come over for bottomless mimosas and eggs bene?
Sparkling Green Apple Limeade
And finally a nice Sparkling Green Apple Limeade for those of you who prefer to remain alcohol free. This one looks super refreshing for a hot day out here in Southern California. I know that we will probably be trying this one closer to the wedding.

What are your favorite summer drinks to make?

Friday, April 18

Am I A Feminist?

This is a question I've been asking myself a lot the last few days. It all started the other day on Facebook. A friend posted the comic below:
Rosalarian.com
I have to say that this type of description is why I cringe at the word feminist. I cringe, because I think of the kinds of women who look down on me for the life choice I might make. It's the look of judgement that comes from your peers as you say things like your dream job is to be a stay at home mom. It's the look of oh the horror! It's the moment that people, especially other women start to judge you. "What about your independence?" They ask. They envision you having to ask before spending every dime and not being knowledgeable about current events. This is the kind of behavior that made me hate the word feminist and also not feel like I was one.

What is feminism?

Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, cultural, and social rights for women.[1][2] This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women.

That's the definition according to Wikipedia. When I talk about the tenants mentioned up there, you'll notice that I don't sound quite so far off base. I believe that women should be able to make equal pay for equal work. I believe that women should be able to run for political office even on the highest levels. I believe that women should have the right to vote and have a say in other political decisions. I believe that women should be allowed to gain as much access to a great education as their male counterparts. What part of me isn't feminist?

The part of me that isn't feminist seems to be non-existent yet I don't and wouldn't identify myself as one. Why is that?

Simply put I cannot align myself with a group of people who seem to be judging my future decisions in a narrow scope. Women shouldn't judge other women based on their decisions. We should be happy that women are allowed to make decisions that best suit their situation. We should celebrate that none of us are the same. We shouldn't be pigeon holing each other into what any individual or group thinks is right. We shouldn't judge each other more harshly based on a decision to not be in the workforce if that decision isn't detrimental to the life of that individual or vis versa. Each side of the coin has pros and cons.  We have complaints. We feel the grass is greener on the other side. All of that is human nature.

Let's take time this weekend as we celebrate Easter to think about how we react to other women in our life. Are we supportive? Do we celebrate their success? Have we helped each other? I think these are truly questions that we need to be asking ourselves and we really need to rectify things if the answer is no.

Thursday, April 17

The Crop Top is so Hot Right Now

Kid Cudi from Getty Images at Coachella Music Festival
Fashion experts around the nation agree that the crop top is an in look this summer for women, but they seem to disagree on whether or not it works for dudes. I'm not here to harp on Kid Cudi's fashion but quite frankly I don't see a problem with it. What I do know is that the crop top will not be a fashion trend I'll be following at least not for a few more months. This is one of those trends that is definitely meant for someone with a certain body type in my opinion, but if you feel comfortable rocking it then go right ahead!

Will you be sporting a crop top this Spring?

Wednesday, April 16

The Playlist

Playlists are always hard for me, because I love music. I have been working on this list for weeks now, and it is in no way final. I listen every day to different radio stations, which helps me select songs about love or romance. Then I try to pick songs that will work well together for the wedding playlist. I wanted songs that vary in tempo but that also feel good. I knew that based on how I envisioned my wedding that I was going to need something to keep people dancing throughout the night. I want bodies up out of chairs with drinks in hand ready to party!

I'll be honest with you guys and say that for me a playlist is important for any party. The playlist is an easy way to set the mood for what kind of night you want your guests to experience. You can use a soft playlist for a quiet dinner at the house with friends or something a little more rowdy for a birthday party! You can make your party anything you want it to be with the right music playing, and I promise you that people will remember it.

What's on your daily playlist?

Tuesday, April 15

How to organize your cards in a neat manner.

I like to send cards, but I like to send thoughtful cards for the most part. I like to send cards that we have picked out with a particular person in mine or at least something that is particularly funny for a certain event. It was with that in mind that I knew we were going to need a place to store my ever growing collection of cards and this tutorial was born.
A few weeks ago, we were trying to buy furniture to organize my office, which involved a trip to Ikea. The best thing about Ikea is that they always have cheap solutions to problems you didn't even know you had. Okay, so maybe I can get a little carried away in the store sometimes, but you can't really go wrong with the build your own organization boxes, or I suppose the correct word is assemble. The only other things needs for this project were scrapbooking paper and a sharpie ultra fine tip retractable.
I started by assembling the box! This is probably the best place to start, because you can see the exact size of the box you'll be using. Mine was not tall enough to stand the cards up, but I was able to lay them on their side perfectly.
I cut the first piece of paper to the size of the box and then used it as a guide for all the other pieces of paper. I had about 4 different patterns of light pink paper to choose from so I tried to vary it from piece to piece. The scrapbook paper I had looked like something made for a baby shower, but you can play around with whatever you have laying around the house.
Now it's all about labeling the sections for the people you intend them to go to eventually. This is important if you're not buying generic birthday cards although I have a section for those because you never know when you'll get invited to a last minute birthday party for a friend, and you want to have something ready to go!

This project makes me happy though, because I know that I can walk into my office and look in the section marked for each type of family member and locate cards for my mom, his mom, aunts, uncles, or friends with just a few flips. Plus my card collection is ever growing!

What kinds of cards do you like?

Monday, April 14

Hot's Kitchen Hermosa Beach Date

Beeble and I signed up for How About We Couples to see what kinds of dates they had to offer us, and we started out with one that suited us very well. Plus, I was very pleased with the service that How About We provided us for this date. I'll get to that in a minute, but if you're interested in learning more you can go here. If you click the link, it does give me money toward future dates with Beeble, however you can go to How About We directly if you're opposed to that.

We booked this date last week as a double date through the site. I received an email later saying that the date was only available as a single. Of course I wrote them a nice email in return saying that they had let me buy it as a double so it wasn't my fault, and they needed to fix it. How About We contacted Hot's Kitchen and within a matter of hours my double date was honored. It was fast and easy customer service from How About We, and the four of us were set for an awesome date afternoon. It's always great to get away from the city and out toward the shore with great friends. The beer and tacos were only an added bonus.

The date included a custom beer flight per person, which included any beer sold in the pint glass, and one taco per person. It was a pretty good deal for the price we paid for the date. Of course we were able to order more above and beyond what was included so long as we were willing to pay for it. As you can see from the menu there were so many options and they weren't what you normally expect at the local taco restaurant.
The beer menu was just as diverse. Plus this gives you a few of part of the taco menu. These were not your average tacos.
I'm not a beer person so I only finished one of these. It was the Angry Orchard Apple Cider on the right. This is probably my favorite "beer", and it tastes quite like apple juice. So I'm not going to spend a lot of time reviewing beer here. I just wanted to show you what the custom flight of 4 4oz pours looked like. The little surfboard carrier was pretty sweet.
Now it was taco time. This is the fried chicken taco, and oh my goodness did it taste like home. The taco included one piece of fried chicken covered in mashed potatoes with gravy plus cornbread crumbles. Is there anything more Southern than that? It was absolutely delectable. Not pictured is the Cubano taco that I devoured before this. It tasted just like my favorite sandwich, the Cuban! I was seriously in love.

I would definitely recommend Hot's Kitchen to friends, and I would definitely be willing to return. Service was a little slow at first, but I think the food more than made up for it. Plus, the waitress was super nice once she was at the table.

Sunday, April 13

Invitations and Crunch Time

Don't be confused by the Heather up there, because it's still me. I've chosen to use my middle name for this blog, because quite frankly I always got a little annoyed by my first name. I was 1 of 8 in my graduating class from high school, and it has been a theme ever since. My middle name was a little more original and made me happy.

You may have been wondering where I was yesterday though, and I wanted to explain that I was busy writing out invitations, tieing up invitations, and getting everything ready to mail. We are now in crunch time. I do not plan to miss any future posts, but I will keep you all aware of the situation as I am able to do so.

Tomorrow's post will be a review of a restaurant we are eating at this afternoon with some friends.

Friday, April 11

Should We Pay Student Athletes?

My answer is that we already do! First of all not every college athlete plays a sport where the school is making millions of dollars off their name in their prospective sport. How would we decide what sports would be allocated cash versus those not given the allocation? Would lesser sports at a school have their athletes still given the stipend for fairness? There are so many questions involved with whether or not a student should get paid for being an athlete. For now, I am just going to focus on the average college student versus someone who plays a sport that might allow them a professional career making millions of dollars and make a comparison.

I am a 30-something college graduate. I spend much of my day talking to other 30-something college graduates. We talk about our educations, student loans, and the values of both. Each 30-something person in the US was told that they needed a college education to be able to make something of themselves. We flocked to it in droves. Some of us went to state funded schools while others opted for private educations and honestly the money wasn't that different when you figured in all the extras for a state funded education at some places. We took into account how much we were going to get in scholarships and pell grants. We calculated exactly how much we'd have to pay back in student loans, and we thought it was all doable. It was doable, because we had the promise of a good job when we graduated. Where did that promise go? I know tons of 30-somethings that don't have great jobs, and it wasn't for lack of looking. When we graduated college the market was not good. Some of us went on to further our education in hopes of finding something during that time, but we still weren't able to find it. Now, I want you to take a look at the cost of your education, the amount of loans you have to pay back, and the amount of money you make annually. Does your income equal millions of dollars? I didn't think so. Are your student loans in the tens of thousands? I thought so. Do you make about $40-$60k annually? I didn't until about last year. Don't get me wrong though I had more than enough money to be able to pay my monthly bills and have food to eat as a one person household.
Ronald Martinez, Getty Images
Now I want us to take into account someone like Ronald Martinez who clearly is a shining star at a top notch basketball program. Hell, they're national champions this year, which definitely helps his NBA draft stock. Does he have to pay back money for his education? No, he's on a full scholarship to play basketball. According to freebase, the education alone is worth $30k. That doesn't take into account that his first year of employment as an NBA star would be as much as $3million. I'm not saying that college athletes don't work hard. I know that they have a lot of practices and that they don't really own their bodies. You always have to eat right, exercise right, and be aware of your image in the public eye. The same goes for players in the NBA. Yet, I know that none of that $3million dollars is going to pay for their education. They may or may not even give back to their schools alumni fund.

His claim though is that there are nights he goes to bed starving. Do I want that for anyone? No, I don't. I don't think that anyone wants to think of another person going to bed starving, but I don't think that he goes to bed starving because UCONN doesn't offer him enough options for food. I think that especially in a corrupt NCAA system, he is receiving money from boosters or at the very least things. I think that he is offered a meal plan with unlimited access to food when any cafeteria is open on his campus, according to uconn.edu.

How many of you finished college without eating Ramen for a month? During my college experience, I did this frequently. I'd run into basketball players from the University of Kentucky around town driving brand new Cadillac SUVs, and I'd think that there is no way they paid for that. So there is no way that I believe the system doesn't help a basketball or football player at any given university out in this country. Are they eating Ramen? Apparently not. I think that even Ronald Martinez could find $.50 in a couch cushion somewhere and buy a pack of it, but he instead goes to bed starving. Am I supposed to feel more sorry for him than any other kid going to UCONN? UCONN is making money off of all of them, right?

Thursday, April 10

Colorblocking is so hot right now!

Colorblocking is so hot right now, and I wanted to show you 3 demonstrations that I was absolutely in love with today! I love bright colors and pastels. Okay so I pretty much love anything that screams Spring/Summer, and those are no exception. That being said I also love to pair those bright and light colors with darker or more contrasting counterparts, which is why colorblocking is so for me. What is your favorite type of colorblock? What are you craving for Spring/Summer? I know I'm coveting the above, and I'll put links for each store below.


1. theglossyqueen | 2. JillianReneDecor | 3. HavokDesigns

Wednesday, April 9

The Final Crunch

Irrational Arts
When you're getting into the last two months, I promise that you will feel so much stress. There is so much to be done still and so little time to feel like you're getting it done. The good news is that this is also the time you get to have a little time to relax, because you must. This is the time to take your ladies out and have a killer bachelorette party, and boy do I know I'm looking forward to mine.

When it comes to this getaway with the girls remember that you want to have fun and relax so try not to bring the stress, crafts, or envelope stuffing to the party. Try not to think about the million things still left on your to do list either. You are there to have fun and have fun only. That's part of why you get to pass this soiree off to someone else, right?

My best advice about planning this one is to stay hands off as much as possible. You need to let your girls know what interests you as far as it goes and then let their imagination go wild. For me, I'm looking forward to a weekend of sipping drinks by the pool and relaxing. My nerves are currently on edge about invitations, diy things, and of course remaining able to fit in the dress.

Take a deep breath with me ladies and remember that you're going to have a very special day. It's going to be the best, because you will be there with the love of your life. This is a day to celebrate your love for one another and you have the rest of your life to worry about the details. Take the time now to treat your body well so that you'll be ready to hit it head on.